My friend of 25 years is getting married about two hours from home. I will have a newborn by then that I will hopefully be nursing.
I may need to stay the night in a hotel and can not bring a support person to look after baby as all of my dearest friends and family are invited too!
Your thoughts are appreciated
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well, you must really ask your friend if it will be ok. If you do attend the ceremony with the baby, please sit towards the back and leave immediately if the baby starts fussing and/or crying.
ask your friend. after all, he/she is the only person whose opinion should matter to you here. but this will be a hard question even for them b/c saying not to bring your baby could mean you not coming to the wedding. the only hesitation for people is a big loud cry during the ceremony and you wont know your baby’s temprament until he/she is born so this will be hard to plan. Id say if you have been friends this long and your family is also close then it wont matter, your child will most likely be a very special guest!
Does she know you’re expecting? If so, then undoubtedly yes. A nursing newborn can’t be expected to be seperated from its mother for an out of town wedding. If I was the bride and I knew you had a baby on the way, and I invited you and you RSVP’d yes, and there was no other “children only” or whatever anywhere, then yes its implied you bring baby too. At least a 1 month they dont cry that loud.
I agree that you should sit in the back. Try to plan it so that your baby has a nap during the ceremony, like keep it awake prior.
The child may feel stressed ,if you walk around &well you can sit in a quite corner ….
I took my two month old to a May wedding about two years ago. Didn’t have a problem with her at the ceremony (it was an outside wedding) and she was awake most of the time. I just made sure with the Bride that it was okay to bring her along.
I was also breastfeeding at the time, I made sure to pump a couple ounces before I went though, just in case the baby got hungry during the ceremony. And I did feed during the reception.
I sat towards the front, but on the extreme left side, during the reception (JIC I had to make a quick exit with the baby).
Hope this helps!
My cousin’s wife went to my sister’s wedding with her 3 week old. He didn’t even make a peep.
Ask your friend and see what they say. Some people don’t mind at all. I agree with others that you should sit towards the back and quietly step out if your baby starts to fuss during the ceremony.
If you plan on going to the reception keep in mind that some newborn babies do not like the loud music. Then again, some sleep right through it. I suppose the thumping of the music makes them fall asleep.
Yes I think it would be o.k. I took my almost 2 week old to a wedding. It was my husbands 1st cousin. My husband was best man, my daughters were also in the wedding, and it was also out of town. I was nursing,my newborn would not accept a bottle or pacifier, and he behaved perfectly during the wedding and slept during the reception. I think he takes after my husband-he can sleep through anything, lol. Just sit close to a door if you need to make a quick exit. Have fun. You deserve it.
Personally if I were the bride I wouldn’t have a problem with a baby that young being there, particularly if you have to travel to get to the wedding.
However I have a friend who got married last year who had a particular problem with it. One of her best friends got pregnant and was due around the time of the wedding and my friend said if she had the baby a week before the wedding, even then the baby wouldn’t be able to come. I thought that was seriously unfair – the baby would only be days old and there is no one else at that age who can care for a newborn but my friend was adament.
In the end the baby was born on the day of the wedding so neither friend nor baby were able to make it anyway!
The moral of the story is check to make sure before you assume the baby can come. I think 99% of people wouldn’t care about a baby that young (particularly if you’re such good friends) but you wouldn’t want her surprised and upset on her wedding day if she sees the babies.
I would have no problem with it but, before you make your decision talk to your friend, tell her your situation(im sure she is aware) and ask her if it is ok to bring the baby with you. Be honest, say I would love to be with you on your wedding day but just wanted to make sure it is ok if I bring the baby. I can not leave her with anyone bc I will be breastfeding. No one would expect anyone to leave a one month old to go to a wedding. I’m sure you will both be welcome.
hire a nanny for the day and use a breast pump baby can ruin a wedding
I personally wouldn’t have a problem with it if you did. You need to ask your friend since that is the only one who will know if they think it’s ok or not.
Never assume that all babies are the same. The ones that people constantly complain about are not the norm. Most babies are not that stressed and thus don’t make a peep. It’s really unfair to judge all babies everywhere by the handful of bad apples (as in parents who can’t/won’t read their children’s cues as it isn’t the child’s fault, contrary to popular belief) they’ve come across.
Yes, i don’t see anything wrong with that as long as your baby will not ruin the solemnity of the wedding.
ask your friend
or tell her you will set near the back of the church, and if the baby starts fussing you will go outside… be sure to bring an infant pacifier, this worked well with my daughter , i even used a finger for my son on the city bus… also bring a bottle of breast milk with you to the church, just in case the pacifier doesn’t work. good luck.
I would ask the bride if it’s OK if you bring your baby. If she says no, then I would decline the invitation. Most mothers are not going to leave their newborn baby with someone to go to a wedding even if they aren’t breastfeeding.
Maybe it’s just me but when I invite a friend to any sort of function who has or is soon to have a baby under a year old that the baby will be coming with mum. As others have suggested I would make sure that the bride is OK with it, sit up the back of the area where the ceremony will be held so you can slip out quietly if your little person gets a bit fussy . I took my six month old to a funeral earlier this year and this is what I did, it worked out fine